Daily Reflection – January 4, from Daily Affirmations for Adult Children of Alcoholics by Raquel Lerner
“Today I am set free from unhealthy situations. I acknowledge the courage it takes to break free and trust that I will find a life of peace and authenticity.”
For most of my life, I’ve been working to free myself from unhealthy dynamics. From my family of origin to my partner, whom I met when I was only 21, I’ve struggled to find a space where I feel truly seen, heard, and valued.
Now, at 47, I realize I need and deserve more.
After decades of healing work to increase my self-love and self-esteem, I’ve come to understand that my needs matter.
I want a relationship with real connection—one with laughter, ease, and collaboration. I long to be with someone who is solid and confident, who plans ahead, and who desires to share experiences together.
It’s not just about going on vacations or making plans, although those things would be nice. It’s about feeling emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and physically connected.
I’ve realized that even if a man has reasons for being angry, avoidant, or emotionally shut down, it doesn’t make the impact of those behaviors any less painful on his daughter or wife.
I don’t feel the chemistry, safety, or closeness that I need to thrive in this relationship.
This decision hasn’t come easily, and it’s not about blame. It’s about honoring myself and acknowledging that staying in a relationship without these essential elements is no longer fair to either of us.
I want to show my daughters, who are getting older and choosing their own relationships, an example of self-respect, love, and the courage to seek true connection.
I’ve learned to love myself, and now I’m choosing to prioritize that love by seeking a life where I can feel emotionally safe, cherished, and connected.
Dear God,
Please guide me as I take these steps toward a life of authenticity and peace. Help me to honor the love and lessons this relationship brought into my life while giving me the courage to create the future You have planned for me. May I walk forward with kindness, gratitude, and strength, trusting that You are with me every step of the way.
“I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore, choose life.” (Deuteronomy / Devarim 30:19)
Choosing life means choosing what nourishes our souls and allows us to grow. May I continue to choose life—honoring myself, my needs, and the path You have laid before me. Let me walk forward with strength, trusting that You will lead me to love, simcha, and fulfillment.’
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