Rosh Hashanah: We Don’t Have to Struggle Alone

By Mindy Rubenstein

It’s Time to Be Honest with Ourselves and Others

As Rosh Hashanah approaches, it’s a time for reflection, renewal, and teshuva—a return to our authentic selves. But this process can uncover emotions we often push aside. Many of us hide our struggles, even from ourselves, masking our pain with a smile and saying, “I’m fine” when we’re not.

The truth is, we don’t have to face these challenges alone. It’s okay to admit when we’re not okay.

The Pressure to Appear Fine

In a world where vulnerability is often seen as weakness, it’s easier to pretend everything is under control. Yet so many people are quietly carrying heavy burdens, believing they must keep it to themselves. For some, expressing emotions is especially difficult if we weren’t taught how to communicate our feelings or feel that asking for help is a burden to others.

Teshuva and the Importance of Self-Compassion

Teshuva is not just about repentance—it’s about returning to our true selves. This includes showing ourselves compassion and recognizing that it’s okay to need help. Being honest with ourselves and others is a key part of healing. Struggles are a natural part of life, and practicing self-compassion allows us to seek support when we need it.

In Psalms, King David expresses deep loneliness: “Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted” (Psalms 25:16). Even a great leader like David experienced isolation, reminding us that we’re not meant to carry our burdens alone. We can reach out to others and to G-d for support.

The Weight of These Times in Israel

Here in Israel, the challenges can feel even heavier. Many of us are facing difficult times, and as we near the end of galut (exile), the sense of struggle can seem overwhelming. But we’re also nearing redemption. This is a time to stay strong, reach out, and remember we don’t have to walk this path on our own.

Rav Yisrael Salanter’s Reminder of Impact

Rav Yisrael Salanter taught that if your words impact even one person, that’s a success. And “if that one person is you, it’s a miracle.”

Sometimes the hardest person to reach is ourselves. Being honest about our pain and asking for help can feel uncomfortable, but if you’re the one who benefits from this honesty, that’s an incredible achievement.

You’re Not Alone—Reach Out

As Rosh Hashanah approaches, if you’re feeling emotionally weighed down, it’s okay to ask for help. Reaching out is not a sign of failure—it’s a sign of being human. We don’t have to hide our struggles or pretend to be perfect.

You’re not alone, even if it sometimes feels that way. Healing begins with being real—with yourself and others. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out to me. Together, we can stay strong as we approach redemption.

Shana Tova U’Metuka—wishing you a sweet and fulfilling new year.

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Mindy Rubenstein is a mother of four living in Israel. With 25 years of experience as a spiritual religion journalist, she has published hundreds of articles, essays, and columns in both print and online media. Mindy is also a magazine publisher, writing coach, and spiritual guide for women, offering support and empowerment through her platform, Nishot. Submit your writing and art for inclusion in Nishot Magazine.